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Name : Tan SiKai
Rank : SOLDIER 2nd Class
Birthdate : 10 April 1989
Birthplace: Singapore
Ethnicity : Chinese
Religion : Christianity
Gender : Male
Height : 167
Weight : 56
Values:
-Commitment
-Trust
-Truth
-Reason
Personality:
ISFJ (Jung Typology Test) - I-22%, S-1%, F-25%, J-33%
Explanation:
* slightly expressed introvert
* slightly expressed sensing personality
* moderately expressed feeling personality
* moderately expressed judging personality
Traits:
* Large, rich inner store of information which they gather about people
* Memory for details which are important to them
* In-tune with surroundings - sense of space and function
* Can be depended on to follow things through to completion
* Will work long and hard to see that jobs get done
* Stable, practical, down-to-earth - Dislike working with theory and abstract thought unnecessarily
* Dislike doing things which don't make sense to them
* Value security, tradition, and peaceful living
* Service-oriented: focused on what people need and want
* Kind and considerate
* Likely to put others' needs above their own
* Learn best with hands-on training
* Enjoy creating structure and order
* Take their responsibilities seriously
* Extremely uncomfortable with conflict and confrontation
Career-defining traits:
1) extremely interested and in-tune with how other people are feeling
2) enjoy creating structure and order, and are extremely good at it.
Ideally, the ISFJ will choose a career in which they can use their exceptional people-observation skills to determine what people
want or need, and then use their excellent organizational abilities to create a structured plan or environment for achieving what
people want.
Relationships:
+Committed
+Difficulty in leaving a relationship which is bad, or accepting that it's over
+Selfless
+Intimacy as a tangible way of strengthening their relationship bonds
+Warm
+Difficulty with conflict situations
+Dependable and affectionate lovers
Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, the ISFJ's natural partner is the ESTP, or the ESFP. ISFJ's dominant function of Introverted Sensing is best matched with a partner whose dominant function is Extraverted Sensing.
More at:
ISFJ Profile or
Protrait of
an ISFJ
"To be a hero you got to have dreams... and honor" - Angeal
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Wednesday, 9 January 2008
Today was a very very sad day for me..
Maybe I really had been holding too tight.. Maybe I really can't give it up.. I still recall, just 2 days ago, I am so convicted to my cause, my vision of both of us together after all these trials.. Yet, after meeting her up to go for job interviews together, I felt, really, that we can't be together for even the future.. Even my vision, my hope with my faith, was blurred..
Initially, I thought all was okay.. We got along just fine, so fine to the extent that I felt as though we were back together again.. Luckily before meeting her, I told myself repeated to watch myself.. We went to RecruitExpress@Orchard for her job interview, afterwhich we went to B2 where we saw her friend.. During these few times, we had our fair amount of chat and hitting each other (jokingly of cuz..).. I was mindful of the line which she created for us..
It was at Bugis, Fortune Centre, where things took a turn.. I forgot to re-key in the address of the place for my job interview (as I accidentally deleted it the day before..), and we had a hard time trying to find the place.. I called my bro, but he needed to use the toilet for awhile, while my mom isn't home.. In the end I got a chilling from her for not doing things well enough, like adding the contacts etc.. I was like, I know, sorry, but her tone was so sharp.. I forgave on this one, initially..
We went for a walk around Fortune Centre.. So we played a little, and it went to the her newspaper that was in my hands.. She wanted to throw it away, so I pulled out the back of her collar and pretend to stuff it in.. Her face turned black immediately and swiftly took the newspaper and threw it into the dustbin.. Sharply, again, she informed me that she doesn't like people to stuff things into her shirt.. Like I don't know..?
I got enough of this limit crap.. If all friends care about is limits, limits and limits (the closeness to each other), there won't be any progress! Just ask around: Which friendship doesn't involve sacrifices and moving out of comfort zone? Which friendship doesn't involve compromising?
I realised I am not God.. Far from it, I am a human.. I tried to be like Jesus to her, but maybe, I'm just too full of myself.. To her, friends are just people whom you can talk to, but not indept.. To me, friends are true friends; they are people I can trust; they are people I can talk to; they are people whom I am comfortable enough to let them know some of my feelings; they are people whom I can tease; they are people whom I can care for; they are people whom I am unwilling to sacrifice for other things; they are people whom I can give joy, share joy, derive joy from.. Friends to me aren't any roadside acquaintance.. They are important people God place in my life, to support me when I am down, to give support to when they are down.. Simply said: A friend in need is a friend indeed..
I don't feel the value of this relationship anymore.. I don't feel like working for something that simply hurt us.. The more I tried to salvage this relationship, to bring it to its glory, the more hurt I cause on both of us.. I simply don't see any longer..
Not to say its all her fault totally.. She tried to salvage too, in a wrong way.. She said: If you were not to move and try out all possible pathways, we will distance from each other.. My thought was: Why can't you do the job?
Seriously, I don't feel her valuing this relationship.. Its like a relationship easily replaced! She asked for forgiveness.. Under normal circumstance, I would have forgiven, but now I can't! Her sorry was so matter-of-fact.. So what if she knows where she's wrong, but just don't understand it? Can knowledge save? Does she knows the underlying emotional currents? Does she even wish, with fervent desire, to salvage an 8 year long friendship?
I am tired of correcting her.. Tired of trying to make her see.. She's just so stubborn to her thoughts, so self-righteous.. With thoughts on perfection in perfection, she failed to see the perfection in imperfection.. She failed to see the diamond in an uncut diamond..
I walked down the bed of roses.. O' where's she? That imperfect flower with great perfection..
posted at : 19:22
to do list
rock climbing regularly
play paintball
go ice-skate
go roller-blade
go cycle
swimming!
hit the beach
and many more...
To Remember
07.01 Guo Hao's bday
01.02 Kenneth's bday
05.04 KaiYu's bday
15.04 Sin Man's bday
16.04 Nuranati's bday
02.05 Jimmy's bday
28.05 yaNN's bday
01.06 Xiu Wen's bday
15.06 Jian Wei's bday
07.07 Dorcas' bday
07.08 XiuXuan's bday
07.08 Xiuyi's bday
09.08 Singapore's bday
30.08 Tze Chong's bday
10.09 MaioSia's bday
07.11 ShiHUa's bdday
08.11 yIhUAn's bday
13.11 Cherie's bday
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March 2007
